The relationship optimization framework's adoption over its first 15 minutes yields five design lessons: (1) Flexible categorization (including blocked/pending states) dramatically expands participation, (2) Low barrier to entry (one timing expectation) beats comprehensive requirements, (3) Visual progress indicators create opt-in accountability without coercion, (4) Real-time ethics integration (Quick-Check before data entry) prevents rather than corrects violations, and (5) Counting non-participation as data (blocked relationships as a category) transforms rejection into contribution. These lessons apply to any future Village coordination tool.